When you lose someone you love...
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SAYING OF THE WEEK!
Everything that happens to us
Can be for our highest good
If we choose to make good use of it.
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Dear Dolly InnerGirl,
This year I lost my favourite family member, my Grandpa (Paul Pa). Even though it has been a bit since he died, I am still not over it and I have noone to talk to. I have tried to talk to my parents but they just don't get how upset I am. They think I am fine but little did they know that I don't eat much and they still haven't realized which I hate because all I want is help. I tried to talk to my friends and they don't get it either. I’ve even been to counselling.
I am sick of people saying:
I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL - because they actually don't
LOOK WHAT YOUR’RE THANKFUL FOR - I am thankful for a lot of things but that's not really important to me at this moment
THEY ARE IN A BETTER PLACE NOW - that just make me feel bad because it’s like they are saying he's in a better place with out me
IT'S TIME TO GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE - I think that’s really rude because I'm having such a hard time.
Please help me
R, NSW
A:
Hiya R,
You’ve looked everywhere for comfort and help, and yet there is help, and the place to look is inside of you. As you say, no one understands how you are feeling, but you do!
When someone you love dearly passes away, you are experiencing a permanent change. There is now a space in your life that was your beloved Paul Pa.
Now when you are alone, I’d like you to close your eyes, take a few breaths and imagine him standing in front of you. What would you feel he would say to you? That is how you can honour him. Fill the space. Do something that you know he would love to see you doing. As you do this, his loving energy will glow with happiness as you have found a way to connect to his presence in your life in a way that is truly meaningful to you.
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Dear Dolly InnerGirl,
Recently, my friend and I have been feeling left out of our little group. We have been thinking of leaving and finding another group of friends but the other girls don’t want my friend to leave. But she does because the girls are not including us. Worse still, the girls want her to stay but didn’t say anything to me. Help!
S, QLD
A:
Hi Z,
You certainly have a good friend. She prefers your company to that of that little group. So like, who is in control here? As you seem to sense that you are excluded from that group, it seems to spell out a message that it is time for a change, which you wisely have considered anyway. Sometimes just walking away and joining in with others shows them and you that you have the power to make decisions no matter what the little group think of you.
As you choose what is best for you, others will now treat you with more respect too.
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