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SAYING OF THE WEEK!
Batteries don’t work if they have 2 positive ends
Batteries don’t work if they have 2 negative ends
Like batteries we need to accept we have both
Positives and Negatives
To give us the energy
To fulfill our potential
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Dear Dolly InnerGirl,
I have a friend who frequently abuses me and my friends. At first it was just her being moody and stuff, but now she's throwing scissors at our heads and giving us bruises. She's fun most of the time but it's just hard to talk to her without getting her upset. When she hurts us accidentally, we have to forget about it or she will get mad at us! But when we accidentally hurt her, she just gets so mad.
We talked to her about it, but she never cares or realises that she's hurting us emotionally and physically. She gets straight A's in class and we thought about telling the teacher but she will obviously take her side. She's like a frenemy now. She disses us in her diary but acts like she never wrote it. I'm really confused on what to do.
C, VIC
A:
Hiya C,
It seems whatever you all do doesn’t suit this girl. The way she is powering on, is she has your attention! So while you feed her need to be a focus, she will keep playing her role. There is a certain cred in being the one that everyone feels uncomfortable around. The amazing thing though, is under all that acting out is a very insecure little girl.
So how about showing her another kind of attention. When you speak with her, only say something you like about her. A compliment. The most important thing is that when you give her some appreciation, it has to be genuine.
The reason this is a really awesome approach is, it’s unexpected. She will be in new territory. She is used to being rejected. And you know what? Giving compliments also make YOU feel good.
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Dear Dolly InnerGirl,
I started high school this year and most things have been going wrong. People said it will be fun and made it seem all happy but it isn't for me. There have been rumours that have been floating around that I'm a lesbian and I'm not. Now people are saying I'm emo because I have mostly black clothes. Could you please tell me how I can stop these things being said about me?
L, NSW
A:
HI L,
The simple answer is you can change the way you experience this stuff. What’s good about people talking about you? You are getting noticed. You get noticed by wearing black clothes and a certain style of haircut. Ask yourself this. Would I rather be invisible?
Just be yourself and enjoy being talked about or you change your appearance and melt into the crowd. Your choice.
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