Thought of the week:
Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.
Dear Dolly InnerGirl,
Dear DOLLY InnerGirl,
There is this guy in the same year as me that I really like. A couple of weeks ago, I found out that he wasn’t really who I thought he was. Yet for some reason I can’t get over him. I don’t even know why I was attracted to him in the first place, but one day I just started getting butterflies and smiling whenever I heard his name or saw him. It’s been six months now and I’m really frustrated and confused. I just want to get over him so I can focus on school. Please help!
Jaimee, 16
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Answer:
Hello Jaimee,
When we have experiences like these and start to associate people with happiness, it’s often hard to break the habit. Gamblers often reveal that they started for fun, chasing the one big win, never to achieve it again. They now have the habit of expecting this win.
Now you have the challenge of breaking your own habit. Start a 30 day challenge. Think about your daily routine. Which hand do you use to brush your teeth? Which foot goes into your pants first? Switch it around. It will feel odd to begin with but this feeling is expected.
Can you notice your ‘auto-pilot’ ways are starting to change? You’re back in control of your actions. Try saying this out loud to yourself: “If I can change this, I can change anything.”
When you start taking control of these simple thoughts and actions, you can experiment with making bigger changes.
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