Your first kiss is something you'll remember for the rest of your life. So, why should you feel the pressure to rush it?
You're so nervous. Your palms are sweaty and your heart's racing — you've been waiting for this moment for a long time. You try to calm yourself, thinking over all the advice you've been given by your girlfriends. ''The wetter the better'', ''at first it's uncomfortable but once you start you'll be fine,'' ''just relax and it will slide right in." The moment of truth has arrived. You wrap your arms over his shoulders while he pulls you in at the waist. His tongue slides into your mouth. It's all over within a blink. You've just experienced your first kiss; you've just lost your ''kirginity''.
Your first kiss is one of the most exhilarating, yet nerve-racking moments of your life. It's something that has been long thought about and it's something you'll remember forever. There's no perfect age for a first kiss, but I think you'll find that for most, it seems to happen at about 15, or so they say. If you haven't lost your kirginity (kissing virginity, duh) at 15, there's nothing wrong with you. In fact, some of the most amazing women waited years for the right moment or right guy to lose their k-plates.
I'm just not ready
Sarah, 16, had her first kiss at 14. ''My first kiss took place at the back of the school oval. All my friends had kissed boys and I was sick of being the only one left. When my best mate told me that Jack was going to ask me out at lunchtime I knew that I'd have to kiss him. Any excitement I felt was overcome with nerves. As he leaned in for the kiss I felt sick. Our braces mashed together and my mouth dripped with his saliva. It was disgusting!''
A first kiss is not something that should be rushed. If your girlfriends all seem to be running around kissing boys but you're not ready, there's no hurry. A lousy first kiss is about as exciting as hearing Britney Spears has had another breakdown. If you don't feel ready to kiss a boy, chances are, the kiss will be terrible anyway. Don't succumb to peer pressure. Your friends aren't the ones who will have to live with the memory of your first kiss. The last thing you want is to regret your first kiss, so do it when you're ready. If you're worried about being seen as a loser for not having kissed a boy, keep in mind that Victoria's Secret model, Adriana Lima, experienced her first kiss at 17. Who would've thought that this Brazilian beauty would've been shy around boys?
It's against my religion
In this modern world, there are many different religions, all with their own unique set of values and practices. If your religion doesn't permit you to be intimate with a boy, then why go against what you believe just to fit in?
Until recently, former Miss World and Bride and Prejudice actress, Aishwarya Rai, had never had an on-screen kiss. Her Bride and Prejudice director keeps us on the edge of our seat waiting for Aishwarya and the leading hunk to make out. But no, not once do they kiss. The reason for this is Aishwarya's Indian background. It goes against Indian culture to be publicly affectionate.
I haven't met the right boy
A first kiss is something that needs to be experienced with the right person. Why wait 15 or so years to kiss your brother's geeky best mate? For a good first kiss, it needs to be with someone you trust and someone you actually want to kiss. Again, what's the rush? You've got years to kiss boys, but only one first kiss to give.
Lucy, 21, had her first kiss at 18. "Most of my girlfriends had kissed boys back in year nine and 10, but I found myself in first year uni still not having done the deed. The reason I hadn't kissed a boy was simply because I hadn't met the right one. I wasn't about to kiss some greased up, pimple face just to get it over and done with. In the end I was glad I waited because my first kiss was perfect."
You simply don't want to
If you simply don't want to kiss a boy, that's not a problem at all. Not having the burning desire to experience a first kiss does not make you weird. Sexual experiences happen at different ages and there is no deadline for when everything must be done. If you don't want to kiss a boy, don't.
As hard as it may be, try not to be embarrassed if you have never had a first kiss. Whatever the reason, it really isn't that big a deal. Plenty of beautiful, talented women waited for the right moment or boy for their first kiss. Whether you haven't met the right boy, it goes against your beliefs, you're not ready or you simply don't want to, not having experienced a first kiss is as insignificant as never having had your hair dyed.
Words: Lucy Stewart
