So, you think things are peachier on your friend's side of the mirror? According to DOLLY counsellor Louise Rémond, the "she's prettier" (SP) complex comes into effect when you make unfair comparisons between yourself and - or even just one friend. "You choose to compare yourself to people who have something you want or value," says Louise. "That could be a certain look or trait, or even their boyfriend. Then you make yourself feel down about it."
Are you suffering from the SP complex?
Sticking yourself on the dud pile just because you don't have hair like Claire or legs all the way to Spain like Amy is NOT a healthy attitude - it could lead to depression or bad eating habits.
Remedy 1: Remember there are always going to be people better off than you, but there are also people worse off than you. It all balances out, so be thankful for what you've got!
Remedy 2: Make a conscious decision to change the way you think. When you start comparing yourself negatively to someone else say "Stop", then remind yourself: "I am me".
Remedy 3: It's impossible to change how other people look so focus your energies on your positive features instead. Tell yourself: "I have great (insert your fave feature here)."
Remedy 4: Is there something specific you like about someone? If so, ask yourself why, and whether there's anything you can do to be more like that person. Then watch them closely for some tips.
Remedy 5: At the end of the day, different people find different things attractive. There are probably lots of girls who wish they had something you have.
Remedy 6: Remember, just because your friend is hot doesn't make you less attractive!
Words: Samera Kamaleddine
