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SAYING OF THE WEEK!
Your negative thoughts about others
Don’t hurt them
They hurt You
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Dear Dolly InnerGirl,
Recently my boyfriend dumped me two days before our nine month anniversary for my best friend. I really love him still and don’t know how to get over him. Please help me!
E, WA
A:
Hiya E,
What can you do about the situation? See it differently. You now know that your boyfriend was not the person you thought he was. Could you see that perhaps you could be grateful that you are free of someone who has challenged your trust?
Your best friend now has that issue to deal with. Her friendship with you also has revealed a side to her that you didn’t know. For your own wellbeing, accept was has happened, so you are emotionally detached. Forgive and forget. Are you now willing to allow people into your life that treat you with respect?
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Dear Dolly InnerGirl,
I'm sick of getting stressed out by my bratty sister. She is seven yrs old and I'm 12 and I have to share a room with her, she is so disobedient and selfish that I want to pull her by the hair and slap her in the face. She is also a drama queen like when ever she gets a slight push she reacts by crying or hit me back and I get the blame for some thing that I did that was harmless.
I'm not allowed to stress due to having surgery on my heart and still she got told that and she goes and stresses me out more. I want to cry or lock myself in the room and I don't no what to do? I told mum and dad that I want to have my own room but all i get was "Soon very soon" and it been like 3 years and no room for myself. My brother gets his own room and his is only 3 minutes older (we're twins) and that's not fair.
Sometimes I want to run away to teach my parents a lesson for not understanding what I'm telling them and it is a big deal and it effects my life. Help!
C, NSW
A:
Hi C,
What we think about, a lot, we bring about. Here is an example:
When we think about a certain thing, say a place we have been to, we notice that heaps of other people that have been there too! An example in your present reality might be hospitals.
When we are unhappy inside, our outside world mirrors that unhappiness back. So it would be very helpful for you to find a little happiness, then you will experience some of that around you as well. Your little sister is your mirror in this case, and she is showing you a very emotional mirror. Now look inside yourself. You are going through a health challenge, what feelings are you having? You have been encouraged to stay calm. This is not happening. Only you can calm yourself, and at this time, as you well know, it is very important. Start now.
Become aware of your breath. Breathe in and say to yourself One. Breathe out and say One. Breathe in and say Two. Breathe out and say Two.
Keep this up till you get to 10 in and out breaths. Then start again. The idea is that you concentrate on the numbers so your mind gets the rest it needs from your unhappy thoughts. Also do things that make you LAUGH. Hire funny DVDs read funny books. Hang out with peeps that have a sense of humour. Laugh and be well.
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